Money is NOT Everything

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Hi guys,

How is your weekend? . Good, I hope. All the while I have been telling you to work hard on making money online, rite? So today I want to share with you a true story about how money can tear a family apart.

Family Man

This is based on a true story. Mr. Z worked in the Air Force as a low rank officer. He and his family lived with his brother in law somewhere in KL. His wife sold nasi lemak at a Gas Station near their house in the morning. Mr. Z rode a motorcycle to work every morning. Sometimes he would travel with his family back to the kampung by riding  his motorcycle from KL to Muar with his son sitting in front. After work, he would play with his son at the park. They lived happily without much problem except for their sister in law who had been having some kind of an attitude towards them. She did not like Mr. Z and his family living there. However, his brother in law was a kind person. He told Mr. Z just to ignore his wife.

Opportunity

As life goes went on Mr. Z got promoted and  held a position in the Tender and Project department. After sometime, he managed to understand how tenders were given and set. When you are already very familiar with it, you are in the position to control it, rite? A lot of contractors/vendors will do anything to seduce you to either take bribe or set the tender in their favor. Since money was always the biggest need for Mr. Z, he was not strong enough to fight the temptation. He started to create many new tenders in favor of his clients. Earning from as little as a few thousands and up to hundred of thousands per tender, Mr. Z became a rich man.

He bought a couple of expensive cars and houses but he would still go to the office by riding his motorcycle to cover his tracks. He bought a new house and moved out from his brother in law’s house and lived in one of the houses that he bought. His family lifestyle has changed all in of a sudden. His wife stopped making nasi lemak in the morning and he bought expensive clothing and jeweleries for her. At the same time, he helped his relative financially, especially when his brother in law almost lost his house when his wife lost her job. At least, he had paid their courtesy back.

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Dirty Money

As time went by, people started to talk behind their backs. How could an army officer live a luxury life like that? When it involves corruption and bribery, it is dirty money. No matter how nice you are, it will turn you into something bad eventually. Mr. Z started to enjoy, going to night clubs and GROs. His wife, believing that he was having an affair, started to become suspicious. They always fought and argued. Their son always became the victim. No more happy family time as it used to be. The problem got worse when Mr. Z wanted to get married and at the same time, the Anti Corruption Agency was investigating him.

His grown up son always ran away from home when he knew that his father wanted to marry a GRO. The family is now really torn apart and in a bad shape. From a happy family, now they are facing a huge family crisis.

My 2 Cents

First of all, it’s not my intention to humiliate this family. I just want to share that money is not everything. We still need money to survive, pay for car loan, education, credit card etc. But happiness is priceless. So there is no meaning for  being rich but you can’t find peace in your family and spend quality time with your kids.

We must work hard in making money offline or online but make sure it is legal. For offline, don’t take bribe,because it is just like taking drugs. Once you have tasted it you will hunger for more. Seriously, it is contagious. For online job, please don’t do click fraud or exchange clicks for making money online with Google Adsense. Don’t trick people to buy your e-books/products by using false claim. This are the dos and don’t that you should remember.

In Islam, we called it rezeki barakah, if you earn it the right way it will benefit you in some ways and bring happiness to you. If you steal from other people, the money that you earn will cause you a lot of trouble. Just remember, what you give you will get back. 🙂 Make your life decision wisely.

"Quarter-life Crisis."

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They call it the “Quarter-life Crisis.” It is when
you stop going along with the crowd and start
realizing that there are many things about
yourself that you didn’t know and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder where you
will be in a year or two, but then get scared
because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and
that, maybe, those friends that you thought you
were so close to aren’t exactly the greatest
people you have ever met (so so true!), and the
people you have lost touch with are some of the
most important ones. What you don’t recognize is
that they are realizing that too, and aren’t
really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that
they are as confused as you.

You look at your job…and it is not even close to
what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you
are looking for a job and realizing that you are
going to have to start at the bottom and that
scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what
others are doing and find yourself judging more
than usual because suddenly you realize that you
have certain boundaries in your life and are
constantly adding things to your list of what is
acceptable and what isn’t.

One minute, you are insecure and then the next,
secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force
of your life. You feel alone and scared and
confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you
try and cling on to the past with dear life, but
soon realize that the past is drifting further
and further away, and there is nothing to do
but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone
you loved could do such damage to you :(. Or you
lay in bed and wonder why you can’t meet anyone
decent enough that you want to get to know
better. Or maybe you love someone but love
someone else too and cannot figure out why you
are doing this because you know that you aren’t a
bad person.

One night stands and random hook ups start to look
cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot
starts to look pathetic. You go through the same
emotions and questions over and over, and talk
with your friends about the same topics because
you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans, money, the future and
making a life for yourself…..and while winning
the race would be great, right now you’d just
like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading
this relates to it.

We are in our best of times and our worst of
times,trying as hard as we can to figure this
whole thing out.

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